Bachelorette parties are less formal and less structured than a wedding shower but there’s still plenty of planning involved to make sure it’s fun for the bride and everyone invited.
Here’s a checklist to make the party much more enjoyable:
1. You need to know who’s hosting. Usually it’s the maid of honor and bridesmaids who host but it doesn’t have to be. Any close friends or family members can do the honors. If the wedding is a month away and nobody has mentioned the bachelorette party, this may be a good time to step up and offer to throw one.
2. Check with the bride before inviting anyone. Usually, bachelorette party invites are best-kept at small numbers, say 10 to 20 people, and all those people are invited to the wedding. You don’t want to invite someone who does not get along with the person you are honoring that night!
3. When picking a date, make sure you don’t plan the bachelorette party the day before the wedding. You don’t want the bride to be hung over for her wedding! The closest date you should make for the wedding is 2 to 3 days before. However, most bachelorette parties take place a couple of weeks before the wedding date and after the shower.
4. Depending on the type of party and who’s throwing it, you might have to ask for contributions from each guest. Typically, you can ask for $50-$200 per person but no matter what, never ask the bride for any money.
5. When it comes to bachelorette invitations, your best bet is a general email or e-vite to spread the word. Don’t waste your money or time on a printed invitation for a party and save the money for the bride to be’s fun!
Take Your Bachelorette Ideas and Enhance the Fun
Now that you have the date and the place, you need to know what to bring. Here are the top props to bring to the bachelorette party:
- A headpiece. A veil, a silly wig, or even a tiara are all great options to let everyone know that it’s a bride’s bachelorette party and who she is.
- Have a “dare to do” list. Bring a list of tasks the bride has to do as well as items she has to collect that night.
- Some sassy attire. You need at least one outfit to make the bride feel daring for the night. Encourage all guests to bring at least one naughty item that the bride has to wear at some point in the evening.
- Get some phallic fun items. A good suggestion is to bring penis straws. The ladies will be cracking up with laughter and enjoying their drinks that much more at the same time!
- Bring digital cameras to capture the special moments. Assign to people to begin taking pictures and email them after the party. Depending on what happens that night, the bride and women attending the bachelorette party probably don’t want to see anything posted that can paint them in a bad light with other family members and friends. So, be careful with the type of pictures you take and definitely don’t post them on Facebook for all to see. Note – many weddings have been broken at the last minute after the bride was caught in a compromising position in a photo with a member of the male species!
Some important items to have on hand for emergencies are a cell phone, extra cash, the subway or bus schedule, the phone number for a car or taxi service, and a map.
A list of all the bars you will be visiting including the phone numbers, addresses is a good idea, too, particularly if the group plans to be splitting up at some point that evening. So, get those bachelorette invitations going already, will you?