Bonding with your children is an absolute requirement when it comes to responsible parenting; it can heavily impact the emotional well-being of your children for the rest of their lives. As a workhorse carrying a ton of responsibilities in your home life, it’s easy to forget this important area of a child’s upbringing.
Lead a More Fulfilling Life Through Bonding
Bonding begins with the baby in the womb and should continue for that child throughout their lives. This is an area that should not be neglected because it basically defines the emotional well-being of all families. A parent becoming closer to his or her children is one of the basics in life that can help lead to a more fulfilling life for ever family member.
Here are two practical tips you can use to easily begin to bond with your children effectively ( I told you it would be easy!):
1. Hug your children every day and tell them you love them. Every now and then, tell them how much you love them. I ask my 7 and 12 year-old kids occasionally, “Do you know how much I love you?” I continue by extending my arms fully out to the side while saying, “This big!” My 12 year-old looks at me like I’m a crazy quack but I can tell how much she likes it when I say this, evidenced by the many times she comes up to me when I least expect it, for no reason at all, and she hugs me and says, “Daddy, I love you.”
Ask your children how their day was. Tell them how happy you are to be home from work because you are there with them. By doing this, you’re creating a strong emotional attachment by giving them unconditional love and helping them connect with you as a human being. You are also giving them a sense of security which is something all children need so they can function healthily in society. In short, you are giving them the gift of helping develop them into a secure, compassionate, loving human being.
2. Praise them when they do good and point out things that are unacceptable. Consistent praise builds their self-esteem in a big way and this is essential in a kid’s life if you want them to feel good about themselves and flourish in life. Try your best not to be too nit-picky when you are pointing out something wrong and offer them the correct point of view in how to deal with those specific instances.
Also, include your children in home activities and stress the importance of togetherness. For example, don’t start eating dinner at the table until all of your children are seated. Including all of your children will help make them feel a “sense of belonging” to the family and will strengthen their self-esteem as well as the family bond. In short, you will be giving your kids a chance to feel good about themselves and be responsible so that they can become anything they want to be in life.
Bond With Your Child As Often as Possible
Something I like to do is to separate one day, every other weekend, for each of my kids and designate it “their day.” On this day they get to choose what they want to eat and where to go. Then, I build a family day around what they want and makes them feel important to the family. That’s what it’s all about; making your child feel a sense of belonging, a sense of worth, and sense of how fulfilling it is to love!
Bonding with your children also benefits you; besides the obvious strong connection you will develop with the kids think about how less stressful a household can be when you have a happy, healthy environment.
So, family bonding for adults = awesome health benefits!