Many people who are in an abusive relationship believe they can weather the storm and that things will change. Often times, the abused person is financially or emotionally dependent on the abuser which makes things far worse than anyone can imagine.
A person may be abused verbally, mentally, physically, or sexually and yet many factors prevent that person from leaving this scenario behind. People who abuse others tend to feel a sense of gaining more strength which each and every incident and the longer someone stays being abused, the more volatile the situation becomes.
For abused people, it’s important not to place guilt or blame on themselves. If there is a lot of emotional attachment involved, you have to realize there is no way to overlook the abuse and accept the fact that the person is going to need some help to change his or her ways and even then, it simply may not ever work out! You need to get yourself out of the abusive relationship cycle.
Some abusers blame their victims for their actions. They will carry out their actions and perhaps apologize and beg their mate to stay later on while saying they didn’t want to act the way they did but they were left with no choice. This is an obvious indicator of someone who desperately needs psychological help and intervention.
If you are in an abusive relationship, here are some tips to help you see the light and make a change:
1. Be completely honest with yourself
If you’re being abused you have to acknowledge the fact that things are not going to get any better and that you deserve to have a better life. You may be suffering from self-esteem issues due to the constant battering and belittling. This is the time to pull yourself together and show some courage so you can pull away with confidence. Leaving an abusive relationship may not be as easy as others think but usually, it is the only solution to making the abuse come to a halt.
Speak to someone you can confide in and let them know what’s happening in your household. This is a problem you should not handle all by yourself. Having friends or family members to lean on will make a world of a difference. For example, you may need a place to stay temporarily or semi-permanently and with the support of your family, leaving the abuser behind can be much easier.
3. Don’t put yourself in danger
If your abusive mate is threatening you or shows signs of potential violence, consult with your local police jurisdiction and file a report. If necessary, you may also have to file a restraining order. Unfortunately, police officers cannot provide around-the-clock protection for the average citizen from someone who has proved to be violent or unstable. This means you need to protect yourself through any legal means possible.
4. Accept the fact that you have to leave
If you stay with an abuser, things are not going to get any better. You need to try your best to make arrangements to go somewhere else while all your matters are being sorted out. Don’t let the abuser try to talk you out of leaving. It’s common for a person who abuses others to begin begging and pleading with their significant other so that they can give them one more chance. The only chance
you can give anyone at this point is yourself; the chance to stop the abuse and pick up the pieces in an effort to begin living a normal, happier life.