I have the same talk almost every month with my girlfriend about how I wish I were 21 again but lately, the conversation has been taking an ugly turn towards the south as we start to question whether or not we are still attractive to our husbands. After all, when you get into your forties, reality starts hitting you upside the head like a jackhammer that won’t quit! I am no spring chicken anymore but it certainly doesn’t spell disaster and I must say I am happy with the way I look, considering!

The same goes for anyone of any age who feels a little inadequate in the “looks” section. While it’s true that members of the opposite sex notice your physical features before anything else, your depth as a person will usually be the factor that helps you reel in the biggest fish in the sea. On the surface, many people can appear attractive and if you haven’t experienced it for yourself yet, you wouldn’t believe how many of these gorgeous people are extremely shallow and downright brainless. That’s not to say all good-looking people are knuckleheads! I know many physically beautiful people who are geniuses and my husband is one of them! The point is; you can’t judge a book by its cover because there is so much more to see once you open it and start turning the pages.

If you have self-doubts about your appearance the first thing you need to do is try your best to zero in on the parts of your body you are not satisfied with and start making changes. Are you a little overweight? Is your butt just a little too big? If you are a man, are your man-boobs preventing you from feeling ultra-confident? By making these changes you can begin to transform the way you feel about yourself, and quickly! Heck, you may have to get some cosmetic surgery done but that’s not so bad; thousands of folks do it and are very happy with the outcome.

Whatever you need to work on,Take a look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself what a wonderful person you are. all you have to do is make a list and make a plan to improve your personal appearance. It sounds a lot easier than it actually is but many people who would like to change something about themselves never get to the first step of making a plan and sticking with it. Instead, they mull around feeling sorry for themselves without having that winning attitude that most attractive people have.

It’s important to look at yourself and be comfortable in your own skin. If you aren’t, all is not lost. Get yourself going and make a change until you feel far more comfortable. Sometimes, this may require professional help in the form of a therapist and you should know there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Just don’t sit on your butt without taking any initiative at all or you will remain in the same unassertive state you have been in for a while.

Positive affirmations are an extremely effective method for those who need an extra push to make themselves feel better about their bodies and minds. The way it works is you tell yourself on a daily basis how intelligent, caring, and beautiful person as you look at yourself in the mirror. You will reach your subconscious in a way where there will be no denying that what you say is true. Try it; it really works.