Single parenthood is a huge sacrifice in a person’s life but the benefits far outweigh the difficult challenges that lay ahead. When a single parent has to assume the full responsibility for the upbringing of one or more children without a spouse to help them, it can feel as if a fruit truck has dumped a load of peaches on their back and they are laying face down in the bottom of the pile! If a single parent can be patient and extremely dedicated, he or she can eventually work that load right off their shoulders and enjoy a fruitful and rewarding life.
Here is some advice for single parents that may help them raise a child more effectively and have time left over for themselves:
1. Parents who don’t take the time to communicate with their children from the moment they are in their womb are not doing a service to themselves or their children. Children as well as parents need that emotional bond that only a parent can provide and without communication, kids can eventually become withdrawn and often times depressed. You have to understand; most kids quickly learn from their friends in school that families are supposed to have a mother and a father.
It’s important to talk to your child regarding the reason why they are being raised by only one parent. Open the lines of communication and keep those floodgates open for your children for the rest of their life and don’t raise them to be sorry for themselves because they don’t have a mother or a father. Work on building their self esteem.
2. Trying to balance work and parenting duties isn’t easy at all; however, you must do your best to try to get involved in your child’s education. This means you need to make it a priority to attend the open house meetings at the start of the school year as well as participating in any extracurricular activities your children may be participating in through school.
Children need to see this loving support from a parent and it helps to build up their self-esteem. If you are a parent who brushes it off by saying, “I can’t ever attend any of your activities because I’m a working mother or father and I have no choice but to work to put food on the table,” you are completely missing the point and you need to search inside yourself and understand how much you are hurting your child’s future.
It’s better to eat Ramen noodles for two or three days in a row during the next pay period than to miss out on something so important in a child’s life.
3. If grandparents are involved, don’t be afraid to ask them to watch your children so that you can make time for yourself. One of the keys to successful single parenting is to be able to enjoy some type of social life. Far too many parents close up their minds to this and say they have no time for relationships or other activities because they’re busy raising their children. This is a complete cop-out usually to unintentionally draw pity from other people and make themselves feel better and more worthy as a parent.
If you want to be a successful single-parent, you can’t live your life flinging excuse after excuse. You need to live your life just like anybody else and you’re hurting yourself and your children by being narrow-minded; and who knows? You may end up meeting that special someone and fall in love and guess what? No more single parenting advice for you!
4. Finally, look in your area for single parenting support groups. These clubs are full of men and women who are single parents and can share their personal experiences and help any single-parent come to terms with the difficult challenges that lay ahead.