I look around at my co-workers and can’t help but notice how many of them absolutely adore their children but they readily admit how they continue to sacrifice time spent with them for the chance at making a little more money while at work. I feel like I have a responsibility to tell them how this approach has worked out for me over the last few years and how I have changed this approach to make my life as well as my children’s lives much more fulfilling than ever.
My first daughter, who is now 29 years old, was the product of a failed marriage that lasted two years. As an every-other-week father, my-ex barely had enough time to bond with my child during her formative years. To make matters worse, he moved two thousand miles away from her so he could pursue his dream career in the armed forces.
My ex never gave himself a chance to really bond with our child because he hardly ever saw her for a few years and during the times he did get together with her, it was over in a flash. My first child has since grown and she did so without a father heavily influencing her life. I must say, it shows!
Back then, I didn’t know how bonding with your child could prove to be the biggest advantage when it came to helping a child grow up to be everything they could be. My daughter carries much resentment for the absence of her father to this day. However, she’s a loving and beautiful person!
I believe I have the answer if you want to have the best chance at raising a child who can flourish and always stay close to you. Bonding with your children is the way to go!
Bond With Your Child and Watch Them Flourish
Here’s how to avoid the majority of behavioral problems children face today; be a parent who is unafraid to provide structure in the household and bond with your children. It’s as simple as that!
There is no parenting manual that can teach you step by step but folks, it really is an easy process. If you are there consistently there for your children and you actually take the time to participate with them in daily activities, they will bond and become close to you in mind and spirit. When you come home from work every day, instead of focusing on how tired you are and thinking only about yourself and your favorite TV show as you plop yourself down on the couch, go hang out with your kids. Ask them how their day was and give them a daily hug and kiss while telling them how much you love them.
Include them in most everything you do, even if it means asking them if they want to come with you while you pick up a few extra groceries. Heck, occasionally treat them to a little ice cream at Cold Stone or TCBY or buy them a toy at Toys R Us without going so far as to spoil them completely.
Pass up the chance to work overtime if you really don’t need it to make your rent payment or to pay your electric bill! How much more money are you going to really make and why is it that the more money we make, the more we spend, anyway? What is more important to you?
Take a look….no, I mean really look into your children’s eyes tonight before they go to bed and ask yourself if you want those kids to have a fulfilling life and to love and respect you forever, the way you love and cherish them. Bonding with your children will become natural when you place everything in perspective.